Each year on November 11, the nation pauses to honor the courage and sacrifice of those who’ve served in the Armed Forces. Beyond the ceremonies and flags, Veterans Day offers military families a meaningful opportunity to reflect on a vital question: Is your family truly protected if something happens to you?

If you’ve served or are part of a military family, your planning needs go far beyond standard estate documents. From coordinating military benefits to preparing for deployment, your estate plan must work in ways most civilian plans never consider.

In this article, you’ll learn why military families need specialized estate planning, how to protect your military benefits, and what steps ensure your plan works during service, through retirement, and beyond.

Why Military Families Need a Different Kind of Estate Plan

Military families face unique challenges when it comes to protecting loved ones. You may have access to benefits like Servicemembers’ Group Life Insurance (SGLI), Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (DIC), and Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) payments, These are all crucial safety nets that require careful coordination.

Without that coordination, even well-intentioned plans can fail. For example, if your SGLI beneficiary form lists someone you named years ago, your life insurance could go to the wrong person, creating confusion and conflict for your loved ones. Or, if you named a minor child as your SGLI beneficiary, a court will have to appoint someone to manage those funds until your child reaches adulthood, costing your family time, money, and stress. Not to mention, your child will receive all the funds at 18, outright, with no restrictions and no plan for their future security. 

Frequent relocations add another layer of complexity. Estate planning laws differ by state, meaning a plan created when you were stationed in California might not work as intended after a move to Virginia or overseas. Without periodic reviews, your plan could become outdated or even invalid.

Deployment presents its own risks. When you’re serving abroad or in harm’s way, your family must have immediate authority to make financial and healthcare decisions. Standard powers of attorney often lack the specific language required for military systems, leaving your spouse or decision-maker unable to access key benefits or accounts when they’re needed most. These are not details you want your loved ones figuring out during a crisis.

How to Protect and Maximize Your Military Benefits

The benefits you’ve earned through service represent an essential part of your family’s long-term security, but only if they’re properly managed within your estate plan.

Start by reviewing all beneficiary designations. Your SGLI, Thrift Savings Plan (TSP), and retirement accounts each have forms that override your will or trust. If those aren’t up to date, your benefits might go to someone you didn’t intend, such as an ex-spouse, while your current spouse and children receive nothing.

If you’re retired, the Survivor Benefit Plan deserves special attention. It allows you to provide ongoing income for your spouse or dependents after your death, but its cost and coverage need to be evaluated alongside your life insurance and other assets to ensure balance and efficiency.

Your DD-214 and other service records are equally important. Without them, your family may face delays accessing VA benefits, military burial honors, or other entitlements. I help clients organize these critical documents as part of our Life & Legacy Planning® process, along with an inventory of assets, service-related information, and benefit access details. This is crucial. Otherwise, your loved ones may not be able to act quickly and confidently when they need to.

Finally, include burial preferences in your plan. Veterans are entitled to burial in national cemeteries, headstones or markers, burial flags, and Presidential Memorial Certificates at no cost - but your family must know how to access them. Your plan should clearly document whether you want military honors, which cemetery you prefer, and who should be notified.

When these elements are in place, your benefits don’t just exist. They work for your loved ones when it matters most.

Building a Plan That Works in Every Stage of Service

Military life is ever-changing. That’s why it’s crucial your plan works not just after you die, but also during active duty, deployments, retirement, and incapacity. Therefore, your plan should also include:

A durable power of attorney tailored for you and your family, and ensures your spouse or trusted agent can manage financial and legal matters - including communication with the Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS), VA, and Tricare - without court delays. Standard forms don’t cover this scope, which is why when you work with us, as your Personal Family Lawyer^Ⓡ Firm, we’ll create custom powers of attorney designed for you and your military service.

Healthcare directives also deserve special attention. Your healthcare proxy should work in both civilian and military hospitals, with language that allows your chosen advocate to coordinate directly with military medical personnel. Whether you face an injury in service or a serious illness later in life, these directives ensure your wishes are clear and respected.

Personal property and memorabilia should not be overlooked either. Uniforms, medals, and service mementos hold deep sentimental and historical value. Documenting these items and the stories behind them ensures they’re preserved for future generations and handled according to your wishes.

Perhaps most importantly, you deserve a trusted advisor who understands you - someone who stays connected with you and your loved ones through deployments, relocations, and retirement. Traditional lawyers create documents and move on. I stay with you, reviewing and updating your plan regularly so it continues to work as your life evolves.

Proper planning isn’t just a set of papers. It’s a relationship.

Honoring Your Sacrifice and Your Family’s

You deserve to have someone in your corner who has your back, and your loved ones do, too. That’s why Life & Legacy Planning goes beyond drafting legal documents. I will make sure your family has the clarity, guidance, and support they’ll need, whether you’re deployed, retired, or gone.

When we create your Life & Legacy Plan together, your loved ones will know:

• Where to find important documents
• How to access accounts and military benefits
• Whom to contact first for help
• And what steps to take without confusion or delay

And when the time comes, your loved ones won’t face the VA claims process or legal system alone; they’ll have someone who already knows them and their story.

Your Life & Legacy Plan will reflect not just your financial wishes, but also your values, stories, and service traditions, so your legacy lives on into the lives of all the people you love.

This Veterans Day, honor your service and your family’s sacrifices by taking action to protect the people who love most.