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Pamela Starsia

Areas of Focus: Kids Protection Planning, Life and Legacy Planning

Licensed States: New York, Virginia

What to expect from Pamela Starsia

  • A 15- minute introductory call to understand your goals and needs.
  • 2-Hour Working Life & Legacy Planning Session: A comprehensive look at your current family dynamics and your assets, including a comprehensive inventory of everything you have so none of it is ever lost.
  • Education on how the law impacts your family and assets, focused specifically on your County, State and Country of residence.
  • A transparent discussion of your options to care for what matters most to you, no matter what happens. Planning options that work for you and the people you love. Relational, compassionate counsel to help you make "eyes wide open" choices for yourself and the people you love.
  • A clear plan (not just documents) for how your assets and those you love will be taken care of, throughout every stage of life, and in the event of your incapacity or death.

About Pamela Starsia

Hi, I’m Pam Starsia. I became a Personal Family Lawyer because I’m passionate about educating and empowering people to create estate, life, and legacy plans that are driven by their unique individual stories and core values. I believe the estate planning process is an opportunity to explore what’s most important to us and the people we love, helping us to live richer, happier lives.

I’m here to help families and business owners in New York and Virginia make the best possible legal and financial decisions for themselves, their loved ones, and their businesses. I focus on Holistic Estate Planning; Wealth Preservation Planning; Strategic Business Advising and Succession Planning; and Kids Protection Planning® for families with minor children.

No matter who you are or what stage of life you’re in, you are entrusted with a unique purpose in life. Together, we can craft a plan that is aligned to your purpose, to achieve your goals today and define your legacy for generations to come.

I was born and raised in the Capital-Saratoga Region of New York. I attended Princeton University for my undergrad degree, then earned my law degree with high honors from Georgetown University Law Center in 2006.

Most importantly, I’m the proud mom of two human children, Dominic and Luigi, and two rescue fur babies: our cat, Luna, and our dog, Buddy. I get to share the work, the joy, and the more-than-occasional tears of parenting with my husband and business partner, Joe.


“My family has worked with Pam for our estate planning needs after interviewing many others. She not only knows her stuff, she is extremely thorough as well. And the best part is she cares!”
~Khooshbu B.

“Pam is incredible. She exemplifies the unique balance of professionalism & genuine care. Pam Starsia is absolutely the one I’d entrust with navigating a family’s future.”
~Kristin P.

“I have known Pam for most of my life. She truly loves what she does, and among her greatest joys is helping families navigate estate planning. I would wholeheartedly recommend Starsia Law to anyone.”
~Alissa K.

“John and I want to thank you for your kind and efficient attention to our Trust paperwork. You made a difficult process feel light and easy.”
~John and Kim D.

“Pam’s creative business model, vast legal knowledge, and sincere desire to build an estate plan accurately reflecting your wishes, all combine leaving you confident your assets have been bestowed in a peaceful and loving manner.”
~Wendy S.


What makes PFL lawyers different?

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    How you hire us.

    We begin with a comprehensive inventory of everything you own, and everyone you love, and consider it all in a working meeting, called a Family Wealth Planning Session, to guide you to clarify your financial life and legacy goals before we draft a single document.

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    How we plan.

    We work with you throughout every life stage to map out the most likely scenarios for you and the people you love, planning for each as your life, the law, and your assets change over time.

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    What we protect.

    Our Life & Legacy Planning process ensures everything that matters most -- from your financial assets to your values, insights, stories and experience -- are captured and documented during your life and cared for over the generations to come.

  • Asset-1transparency
    What you see.

    Transparency in our process, and our fees … all of which are flat fees, agreed to in advance, based on your choices and with no surprises, ensuring we stay on the same side of the table - supporting you to make a lifetime of great decisions - every step of the way.

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    How we deliver.

    Our systems help you get clear and organized, overcoming the exact issues that keep most estate plans from actually working when they are needed most. We help you leave your family with a gift of love, and not a mess.

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    How our plans work.

    One-and-done estate plans focused only on money are a recipe for a big mess. We help you throughout every stage of life and be there for the people you love, when you can’t be.

Contact Pamela Starsia

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