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What to Do When You Start Judging Yourself

One of the best parts of my whirlwind trip to Canada was the solitude traveling.

Now that I’ve been traveling a bit for business, I’m realizing it’s a great opportunity for me to relax and read some brain candy.  A treat I’ve been missing while I’ve been so focused on building my businesses.

On this trip, I picked up the book "the Glass Castle" by Jeanette Walls.  This book was not only a fast and compelling read (something I’m always looking for), but also left me feeling great about myself as a parent!

One of the things I judge myself about the most is my parenting.  I’m probably the most laissez-faire parent in my daughter’s class.

I got scolded by the director of her expensive private school after I kept my daughter home from school on her birthday. I’m not hyper-vigilant about brushing their teeth twice a day.  They watch TV sometimes.  And, of course, you remember the tooth fairy mishap.

Heck, I’m a single mom running two businesses, while raising my kids. Things fall through the cracks sometimes. Ok, a lot of the time.

And, I judge myself for it.  Well, after reading "The Glass Castle," no more of that!

And, it’s a reminder to me to let go of all judgments about myself. Judging myself is the fastest way to NOT get where I want to go.

Instead, I treat myself with the same compassion I have for others.  And, if I don’t have compassion for others, it’s a sure sign that I’m not having compassion for myself.

The first step to relieving your judgments about yourself is to become aware of them.  With awareness you’ll be able to make a decision as to whether they are serving you or not.

And, the answer is they are not.

So, you can consciously let them go.  Try imagining yourself as your very own child.  How would you treat your child if she came to you telling you she hated herself or was angry at herself?

You’d hold her in your arms and give her love and comfort and compassion.

Do that for yourself.  No one deserves it more than you do.

Dedicated to Your Family’s Well-Being,

~ Alexis

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