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Wealth Secrets: We Need to Talk About Your Wealth Shame

After sharing about my recent trip to Maui, I received the following email from one of my subscribers:

“Alexis, I am on your mailing list. Thanks for all the information I love this kind of thing. However, I have a twinge every time you tell me about your next vacation. There are many people who may or may not get this that just lost their job, were laid off, hours cut back, losing their homes, etc. and your vacation…??!! I think I would just say you are going to be at a mastermind meeting. I am super sensitive to this as I have clients who are really in dire straits and this economy has hurt deep…and I would hate for them to stop reading when they are probably not going to get a vacation and may lose their car or their house.”

Before I go on, let me ask you – can you relate? How do you feel when I talk about the abundance I’m experiencing in my life? Do you get a twinge or maybe something even stronger? Do you wish I would stop sharing about these things or are you drawn to read more and more about it?

Whatever you feel, pay attention. This charge (whether positive or negative) is an indication of what you really want more of in your own life. I spoke in depth about this on my last Play a Bigger Game Call and how to use this charge to really create life on your terms.

Back to the email I received from my subscriber. I don’t believe the gal who wrote this email had a negative intent. She clearly had my best interests at heart and those of her clients. She’s a caring person.

What she doesn’t realize though is how this kind of a message hurts her own wealth. And it’s seriously turning into a nationwide epidemic.

In fact, because of this kind of sentiment being expressed, wealthy people are actually experiencing wealth shame and hiding their wealth!

Chances are that like my subscriber, you are playing into this dynamic. You are either hiding your wealth and feeling ashamed of it or you are perpetuating the idea that wealthy people should be playing smaller and hiding the details about their vacations, their purchases, their lifestyles.

Which category do you fall in?

I’ll admit it. For a long time, I was one of those people who would read about other people’s successes and experience a negative charge. I’d feel angry, or put off, or annoyed. In my mind, I would create this whole scenario about how there was something wrong with them for flaunting their wealth.

This came up a lot for me before I hired my current mentor, Ali Brown. Ali frequently talks about her lifestyle. And when I first began to read this, I was not having the kind of lifestyle I wanted at all!

I was stuck in an unhappy marriage. I was working 6-7 days a week. I was stressed out. And hearing about Ali’s life was just annoying.

As I began to do my own internal work, I discovered this annoyance was holding me back from manifesting everything I really wanted in my life. This negative charge I experienced was actually a signal to me about what I really wanted in my own life and that by allowing the negative knee-jerk reaction, I was blocking my own abundance.

Once I was able to recognize and acknowledge this, I began to notice when I felt annoyed and I asked myself … are you really annoyed or could it possibly be envy you are feeling? Is this really something you want in your life?

When the answer was yes, I would celebrate. I would consciously say “thank you Universe for showing me what’s possible in my life.”

Today, I’m living a life very similar to Ali’s. It never would have happened if I had kept pushing it away.

So for now on, when someone is talking about an amazing vacation or home or car or work schedule or anything else that you feel annoyed, angry, or in any way negative about when you see it, look beneath that feeling. Ask yourself if it’s possible that you would also like that very thing yourself or for someone you know. Really dig down. And if so, make a mental note of thanks and blessing for showing you what’s possible.

If it brings up feelings of judgment that they shouldn’t be flaunting their wealth, just passively notice those feelings that come up and realize it’s very likely an indication of what you what—or what you want OTHERS to experience in life (this can apply to people beyond yourself).

And if you can move through those feelings and hang with this process of becoming aware, you’ll find your life at the most amazing place. You’ll be manifesting (which we’ll discuss next week) so much prosperity in your own life that you can use it to help the people in your life who are struggling to get by—in addition to rewarding yourself.

But that will never happen if you don’t move through the initial charge to get there. Realize your mind is only telling you there’s something wrong with taking a vacation or getting a new car, or buying a house because it’s protecting you from the disappointment of wanting something you think you can’t have.

Next week I am going to teach you exactly how to focus this charge to get what you want in life, physical or not (which could mean a new car, a baby, a relationship or the ability to be a stay-at-home mom), but until next time I want to challenge you to just be more aware of your feelings. Accept them for what they are and bring them back next week so I can show you how to use these negative feelings in a positive way to create life on your own terms!